Does it Help to Regret?

In this series of Blog Posts, I have emphasized singularly on relationships in the negative, or the sad and melancholic moods inspired through relationships not intended for gleeful nourishment. So now I shall endeavor to travel a new direction, writing on more uplifting and socially successful notions one of which is; Regrets!

When I look at this picture of a child praying to her God, it reminds me of the many times I have made decisions that later I came to regret. What does making the wrong choice have to do with regrets? Well regret is a negative cognitive/emotional state that involves blaming ourselves for a bad outcome, feeling a sense of loss or sorrow at what might have been or wishing we could undo a previous choice that we made.  For young people, regret, although painful to experience, can be a helpful emotion. The pain of regret can result in refocusing and taking corrective action or pursuing a new path. However, the less opportunity one has to change the situation, the more likely it is that regret can turn into rumination and chronic stress that damages mind and body.

The above pictures of Donald Trump depicts a person who says a lot of things that later he regrets. I have not known a President of the US who rolls off his tongue insane rhetoric, and later comes back to apologize to the public.

Donald Trump struck a compassionate tone at a rally Thursday August 16, 2016, saying he “regrets” some of his past statements.
“Sometimes, in the heat of debate and speaking on a multitude of issues, you don’t choose the right words or you say the wrong thing,” Trump said in Charlotte, N.C., reading prepared remarks off a teleprompter. “I have done that and, believe it or not, I regret it. And I do regret it, particularly where it may have caused personal pain.”

So many times we speak out of place, but in so speaking we do so because it is in us to do. We cannot hide for long the feelings we possess inside without sooner or later seeing them surface as abrasive remarks and most notably when we least expect it. Words spoken are reflections of emotions felt at some point and the words strung together form dangerous weapons that are more deadly than bullets.

Take a look at this picture of a young man who has decided for one reason or another to cover his face in tattoos. This will certainly prohibit him from entering certain aspects of life, and whether it’s part of a gang thing or a lashing out at life and family, you must know that deep down inside this young man lives a space filled with regret. I have seen numerous people, men and women, in California who change their features through this type of defacing, but you mostly see it through gang affiliation so I guess the gang is the career because I know that IBM isn’t hiring people who do this unless of course they possess a double PhD in nuclear and chemical engineering.

Everyone has at some point regretted something. But you must remember that once you make a choice there is no turning back, like the old saying goes, “you can’t unscramble a scrambled egg.” So the world must know that this feature comes connected to us all. So why not make choices about something and when it goes different from planned just say, “oh well so be it.” Because after all the most you can do is replay that choice a different way, so on and so on until you reach the desired effect, I think it’s actually part of that quote: “If at first you don’t succeed, Trytrytry again.”

Anyway I have made a lot of stupid choices, but I never knew they were stupid until the result ended up facing me differently than I expected. The worse kind of regret is regretting your life, this means you have regretted everything you done and stand for, how awful. Regret should be a short lived emotion of disgust. The rest should just be mental contemplation, trying to assess what went wrong and how you could have done it better and if there is no better associated, squash that idea and move on to something else. Unfortunately we can only breathe oxygen and so we have to feel bad for a moment when our choices turn out differently than we anticipated. There’s no need to persecute yourself, everyone has and will make bad choices about life’s situations and offerings. The key is to accept defeat, ruin and the probability that you will not always get what you hope for, but that there is always another solution just waiting to be found.

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